Saturday, December 18, 2010

When X met Y, who both met Z

Interesting conversation today. For the sake of privacy, let's say two people, X and Y, are BFF's. X and Y both like the same person, Z, who is a mutual friend. Z's a one-of-a-kind babe, so both are considering pursuing her.

Lame love triangle right? But what if X is aware that Y is interested in Z, but Y is not aware? Here's a diagram to illustrate with Jessica Alba playing the part of Z:
The person I was talking to was X, and I had no idea what to tell him. That's an uber sticky situation, if you know what I'm saying. If X made a move on Z, KNOWING that Y is interested, isn't he knowingly hurting his BFF? What if X and Z go out? Doesn't X feel guilty? How does Y react if that happens?

The alternative would be for X to do nothing, and then watch if Y makes a move on Z. How shitty is that? How does X act when he has to hang out with Y and Z? Does he suck it up for the sake of his friend's happiness?

I couldn't help him. I would have no idea what to do in that situation. Have a board meeting with everyone involved and spell it out?

I think the Wizard of Oz said it best when he said: "As for you, my galvanized friend, you want a heart. You don't know how lucky you are not to have one. Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable."

Hope it works out for you X...

3 comments:

  1. Hmmm yeah these things suck, but I really think it depends on how likely Y is to ask out Z. If he's about to go for it, then yeah - it's a dick move to sneak in before and snag the gal. But if Y is just dickin' around and being a coward, X should just go for it. Screw it, give yourself a chance at some relationship happiness if you really, really like the girl.

    But the most likely scenario is that both X and Y will hem and haw and a new figure (lets call him W) will ask Z out and snag her away before either of them grows a pair.

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  3. Your graceful words always highlight your points so delicately

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